jersting still working on it

[jersting]

You're a great guy and deserve better.

thanks for saying that, it makes me feel good about myself. I am so upset for my kids but so happy for myself.

this has really been a great learning experience for me, I just wish it would not have taken 2 years for me to learn. I am going to vent a little here... When my W moved back in without me asking her, she told me I had too many clothes and I needed to get rid of some to make room in the closet for hers. So instead of me getting rid of my clothes I moved them all to the basement. Every morning when I took a shower I had to go down and get dressed. It was no big deal until she moved all of her clothes home a couple weeks ago and took up the whole closet and some of my closet in the basement is when it really hit me that I was the one doing all of the changing to make things work and she wasn't going to change one thing. I got to the point to where I seen she felt as if she could stay just the way she was and I had to overlook it and do all of the changing on my own. I lived a couple months like that and was fed up with it so I went back to my old ways. I felt like if she wanted to just leave things the way they were that there was no reason for me to bend over backward to please her like I had been doing.