He is accusing me of dragging my heels with this D, denying its going to happen, not doing anything. I pointed out what I have been doing and H couldn't name one thing he is doing. He admits he is totally messed up right now, but isn't backing down from the D. He actually said I am getting my punishment (an unwanted D) for being a bad wife.
lwb-
Sweetie, I'm so sorry. You did say that our H's are too similiar right?? Yeah, my H has blasted me saying that I won't admit that it's over and that I'm in denial. Um, no I'm not. It hurts like hell, but it's very much reality to me. And who refuses to talk about things unless he's got liquid courage on his side?? Oh yeah, and let's not forget who hasn't told their friends and family about everything? Now's whose in denial and won't admit the truth?
And to tell you that this is punishment? WTF??? That pisses me off. I'll be on the next flight down to St. Louis to kick his a$$. You can text him and tell him that too!! What is his deal?
I hope your D6 is feeling better. Doesn't make things easier when you have a little one who is sick.
Hey, what's the best time to reach you? H works until 9:00 tonight so I'd like to try to call.
BIG HUGE HUGS LWB!!
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
I am very lost right now. Can't settle in anywhere (work, home, etc). I am a walking empty shell. But I have become even more determined to rise about this, be there for my girls and protect us, even if it ticks off this crazy man that I used to call my husband.
lwb- I didn't see this post and I wanted to say again, I'm sorry that your feeling this. A walking empty shell is a tough, tough feeling to have. Had that exact feeling this morning. You are an incredibly strong woman to be able to rise above it all.
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
LWB, Your husband is also very insecure and childish, isn't he?
I know how hard it is to feel like you are an empty shell, but I know that you are strong and you will be there for your daughters. That's what keeps us going, isn't it? By the way I hope your DD feels better soon.
I can totally understand the OW's H "breaking up" with you because his wife didn't like it. My H got furious when he found out that the OW's H had been calling me. He said we were conspiring together and that he was manipulating me. I said, "And you don't think you were manipulated by the OW? I can't believe you just said that." His reply as "No one manipulated me."
It's amazing that they destroyed the most precious bond of all, marriage and family, but we are the "bad" people.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Seems we all get hammered by our S's for talking to the OP's spouse. My H also has brought up my conversations with OW's H. Look at Mark's W. She actually thinks he's had sex with OM's W. The crap that our S's will believe to make their world right is just amazing. And the relationships are built on lies.
SueS
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ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
What a complete selfish bas$ard!! He says you have been a bad wife??????WTH?? Who is the one who cheated... wake up and smell the cofee buddy.. then I'll smack the he$$ out of him.. physical violence seems good for him right about now!!
You deserve SO much better than this sorry excuse for a H.. he deserves himself and any low life he may attract...
Im glad to hear that you are determined to rise above it, although I know how much you are hurting.. For you and your daughter's sake, i think it is best if he gets out.. him being around to torment you is not healthy for you. He needs to feel emotional pain of not having you two around.
LWB, you will find someone, trust me that will love you for the wonderful person you are and with the utmost respect. This creep was lucky to even have you for a second of his life.
hugs and kisses my friend.
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
I would head straight to the bank for a second mortgage and get that $10,000 in his sweaty palm ASAP. Get rid of that jerk. He is mean and insufferable. You have taken way too much of his garbage already.
I'm so sorry he's being such an @ss. No great words of wisdom here except that you are a great person. Don't let him get you down. Call or email me if you need to chat.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Hey Ladies, I say we get the DBing female mafia rounded up and go rough up LWB's H and then we head north to take care of Sue's H. They both need a swift kick in th a$$ plus a lobotomy. Maybe Dr. Love aka Husband will help us with the medical procedures!
Last edited by Yoyowife; 02/06/0808:57 PM.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I say we get the DBing female mafia rounded up and go rough up LWB's H and then we head north to take care of Sue's H.
Oooh, maybe my completely miserable XH could knock some sense into the both of them before they make the same mistake he did. I think he's looking at his life 5 months post-D with more regrets than anyone should ever have.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
What is his deal?