We have made and will continue to make hard decisions along the way. And other times those decisions will be made for us, even without our input. There's nothing pleasant or easy about any of this.
People of integrity try to remain true to themselves.
Not true to what YOU or I believe. No, they need only stay true to themselves.
We don't answer to each other, this board, our friends, our families....we can only answer to ourselves and our God. Because this journey is personal.
We all wish that every marriage could and would be saved. We all value marriage and believe very strongly in the lifetime commitment that it represents.
That doesn't mean that things don't change.
Jeff is really right about this in the end FIB. We don't ADVISE. We comment on your actions, offer our opinions about your decisions, and, if asked, perhaps share what WE think or would do. You can't pin your decision on any of us in the end, it's yours and yours alone. Most of we grown ups on this sight realize that. I give credit to FIB for being intelligent and self-aware enough that he's not hanging on my words, or anyone else's words for what to do with HIS life and family.
Like it or not, some marriages will not be saved. Being honest about a situation seems far more proper than trying to force someone into prolonging an unhealthy situation.
FIB is not using this as a DB'ing strategy. He's trying to move on with his life. He's trying to accept the fact that his wife doesn't care and won't try, has cheated on him numerous times, and he's just trying to find peace by moving on with his life.
I'm not sure why that's so terrible.
Seems incredibly healthy to me.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
