As a guy, I just want to say that I agree with lil and kett. If he "needs" sex and you aren't willing to provide him with the "real thing," then his only "honorable" choices are:
1. celibacy, with no complaining to you.
2. masturbation, with no complaining to you.
3. divorce.

Having virtual affairs crosses the boundary, to me.

Using porn as a masturbation aid does not cross that boundary, in my opinion.

But, it seems to me that there must be some room for compromise in your arrangement.

Hairdog
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