Helloooo...Smoother Ride....Where Are You???

[SueS]

Karen-

Please don't think that you upset me. Not at all. I understand about alcoholics. My father is an 8 year recovering alcoholic. They say they're always recovering, right? You're never a former alcoholic. I think that's what they say. I also have alcoholics in the family.

It's tough trying to spend time around H when he's not drinking. Now he's not the alcoholic that drinks every day, so I don't mean it like that. He's the one who 99% of the time just can't stop drinking once he starts and he drinks when things get tough. And, he usually drinks when we go out. Yes, he does drink a few times a week, but he typically goes to extremes when he does drink. He's the type that will come home after being out drinking and looks for ANY type of alcohol he can find in the house so he can keep drinking. I can't count the number of times I've thrown away a 3/4 full beer that he has in his hand after he's passed out. He'll open that last one, take 2 sips, sit down on the couch and pass out. Knowing so many alcoholics, you probably understand what I mean. H has gotten drunk at many, many family events, so both my family & his family knows he has a problem. He got VERY, VERY drunk the day/night of his mom's visitation. His dad knows that he drinks a lot, but that particular incident was very hard for my FIL. There was NO denying that he'd been drinking. He even MADE me stop at a liquor store on the way back to our hotel. He self medicates. But, because he's not the type that tv/movies typically portray, one that drinks heavily every day (Leaving Las Vegas) he doesn't think or refuses to admit he has a problem.

SueS