Thanks Woog! I would have screwed that up if I hadn't read your post! H used to always tell me he loved me, hold me, etc. This man sent me 12 Christmas cards in a row for the 12 days of Christmas when we were dating. Two different years. For our third dating anniversary he lined the stairway to my dorm room with balloons and brought me roses and champagne.
To propose, he took me to dinner at a restaurant w/a private room for just us. He knew I loved to hear his fraternity brothers sing (his was a rare fraternity, where the guys all had 3.5 GPAs or better and half were All-State singers in High School), so as we were eating, a dozen of them filed in one at a time until the room was filled. Then they sang for me. Then he proposed. And we were at a restaurant 90 miles from campus so the guys all had to drive there just to sing for me. THAT guy is my husband!!
I will find a way to say how much I love it when he does those things. Well, after 16 yrs together not necessarily those over the top things, but loving gestures in general. H is able to draw the conclusion that if he isn't doing it much now, I would enjoy him doing it more.
I won't bring up those past gestures to H or the MC. Just wanted you to get a perspective on what he is capable of. This is not your silent, brooding husband by nature.
So I will frame it in a positive, "I so enjoy when H ....." (hugs me, kisses me, calls to say he loves me...)
instead of "I want/need H to....." or "H hasn't been ....."
Does that sound good????I don't go to the MC until tomorrow so I have time to prepare
