W proposed that we sell her car (a convertible I got for her) and she keeps 70% of the proceeds. ??? Not sure where that came from. Also, we have some credit card debt, and I sold some stock to cover it. She proposed that she "keeps" 70% of that check, too. She's not really addressing the shared debt we have. I don't get it. It's like she's pretending she doesn't see it.
When I bring it up - in email only, and only in a business sense, all calm and rational - I say, look, I think this is a way to save us some money on finance charges and late fees. We just pay off the credit card with the proceeds from the sale of stock. Then we save hundreds of dollars per month in fees and interest. I never get a response to this. I never hear back from her why this is a bad idea. I tell her this is her money and mine, this is really the children's money. Why not save some? She comes back and proposes for me to let her "keep" 70% of the check.
It's just goofy.
In the context of the run-around on the money issues, she's shown she is impatient and just generally grumpy. I wrote to her,
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I get that this is a hard time for us both. I know that, and I'm sorry it's so hard. I know it's an unpleasant and messy process. But I also know this is what you want, and I know that once we get through it you will be much happier. So while we work through it, I'm going to do my best to be cordial and constructive.
Finally I suggested we try a mediator so that we can stop going round in circles on the money and residential time issues. No response on that. I don't expect her to accept, given her disingenous proposal to keep 70% of the liquid assets we have. In parallel to this suggestion, I am filing a motion in family court to ask for relief in allowing me to see my kids more often. I haven't told her that. She'll find out through her attorney I guess...
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
