I love that you all care about each other so much and have strong feelings coming from your experiences.
The point of this board is to help each other by brainstorming solutions related to techniques described in DIVORCE REMEDY and DIVORCE BUSTING and to help each other save their marriages as best we can.
A strategy that includes filing for divorce does NOT fall in line with that.
Of course, if someone is at the point that they have given all they can, are too broken down, or their spouse has left them....we support them and help them heal as best we can.
This board has a purpose.
With that in mind.......
What are some ways our friend can 'BEGIN WITH THE MIND OF A BEGINNER?' _________________________ sg
I pasted this here from your last thread.
This is a timely post since heated discussions concerning emotional topics can actually hurt FIB rather than help.
Time to get away from the trees so we can look at the forest. I believe that is what was meant by "What are some ways our friend can 'BEGIN WITH THE MIND OF A BEGINNER'?"
I will let FIB talk for himself but I do NOT believe that he filed for D as a "stratrgy" to DB his marriage. I do believe that he feels that he has done everything he could to save his M but all he has now is pain, not positive results. He was coming apart in an unhelathy situation and he had to do this.
So we help him heal. And part of that is brainstorming solutions for him. While saving the M may not be in the cards, FIB still needs to interact with his W for the rest of his life and he must co-parent with her should the D go through.
So, I will try to help along those lines FIB. I will never say that the divorce is right or wrong. I will instead focus on commenting about your progress on the road you choose to follow. I will try to point out the opportunities that exist with every barrier you come across. And yes, if I see an opportunity to save you M I will point it out but leave it to you to decide what to do.
One of my NUTS is that I will live in a way that will make me happy. I need no one's approval. I will choose my own world knowing that each moment I have the power to transform it and that only my own inner fears stand in my way.
