Thanks for the guy's perspective. I have decided to just keep doing what I was doing up until the past couple days--being upbeat, keeping myself happy and busy, and trying to have zero expectations, or at least let my H feel I have no expectations.
The night he finally initiated anything physical with me was a night when I didn't wait up for him to come home, call him to check up on him before he came home, etc. I was sound asleep minding my own business. You are right, he doesn't respond well to demands or pressure. And if he did, I would just worry that he only did what I wanted b/c I told him to. It has to come from him and be HIS idea.
So I will try to relax and go with the flow. No demands or pressure. But at the MC I am still going to be myself. Which means if she asks me what I am wanting/needing in an R, I will say that I need hugs/kisses/ILYs. I am pretty sure physical touch is my primary LL followed shortly by words of affirmation. Anyway I will share that need with the MC, and then I will let it go. He already knows it is what I need so no reason to repeat myself. I will just keep working on making myself happy, playing with my kids, teaching school, and looking for a new job. That's more than enough to keep me busy.......
Thanks again. A guy's perspective is always welcome around here
