I'm disturbed by this development because it appears to me that the lawyers are off doing their own thing while I'm DBing by butt off and W is hostile/distant/uncooperative and all this makes for a huge mess.
I too was disturbed by my W's lawyer trying to take over and negotiate everything with my lawyer. I have talked my W into seeing a 3rd party mediator/lawyer. It should save a boat load of money and should keep us amicable during and after the D.