My H is only 29 as well, but it's a little uncanny how bang on he has followed this script up until this point. My hope is that it continues to play out that way.
Do you know about the tunnel analogy? It is also quite helpful for me to consider in my H's sitch. Your W might just be progressing in. It was explained to me this way...
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The tunnel is the metaphor we use for the Crisis--the journey. At Bomb Drop the MLCer can still see the light at the opening of the tunnel. He can see you and still misses you. As he geos further into the tuneel, the light from the opening is no longer visisble. Things get worse. The OW relationship puls him down. He hated you in the begining and loved you also--may have changed his mind every few minutes/days/weeks. Now, in the darkness, he seems even more certain, more consistent.
It helps me to see this is a progressing sitch and not a stangnant one. I'm thinking about ya... J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
