Well, I think I figured out why H and the OW only met for half hour on Saturday. H had his annual job review on Friday afternoon. His boss wants him to work later until 7:00 or 7:30 which was when he was meeting with the OW. So I figured out he must have told her Sat. and they had a fight over that. They will only be able to meet Thurs. nights (when he used to go to AA) and the weekends. Then she texted him right after and must have decided it would be better to have him at least that much rather than nothing. But at least it is putting some strain on the relationship I am hoping. (Now I almost feel bad that I have ever made a critical remark about his workaholic boss because maybe this could help my sitch?) I know I shouldn't be analyzing, but that's how my brain works, it's tough for me to stop that!
The ironic part to me is he told me how understanding and supportive OW was about his boss and job when he told me about her. I am only about 98% supportive of his job: the past 2 years put a strain on our marriage, he was often having to work 2 jobs, his and filling in for absent employees, his boss and other supervisors, so he was stressed out and cranky; he always is having to reply to his boss' emails evenings and weekends. During my birthday dinner last year, he spent much of it on the phone with a legal "crisis" from work talking to different employees and emailing (and I didn't complain at all). This is a govt. job which pays half of private practice btw so I don't think normally it's supposed to be so much work/time.
So OW is not any more supportive than me when the boss' decisions affect her life of course! I think my H is delusional if he thinks he will find a W or gf that is more supportive, tolerant, and understanding than me and I think I have proved that this past few months with all the stuff I have put up with!!!
