I'd like some help with establishing some new GOALS for my period of "structured darkness". I was thinking...
1) Continue to not contact WAW unless for pick-up for 5D. For drop-offs I will drive off as 5D walks in the house or walk 5D to the door and leave very promptly. 2) When WAW contacts me, I will listen, validate, and understand, her feelings, day, whatever. 3) When WAW contacts me, I will avoid talking about me and maintain the focus of the conversation on topics WAW brings up. 4) End all communications first. 5) Leave WAW's house promptly when picking-up 5D. This will occur every Sunday for awhile so this is important. I want to avoid overstaying my welcome or any awkwardness. Note: 5D is rarely ready on time. So, this can be an issue. 6) Continue to do for 5D by showing her a great life, by taking her places, doing things, simply showing her love by spending quality time together. 7) Keep any communications short to maintain positive aspects of the conversation and not have it twist into D talk or other negative R/M talk - not a lot I can do if she brings it up quickly but this is not her pattern 8) Do not initiate any meetings 9) Continue journal of WAW, continue journal of 5D, maintain a calendar with the sole purpose of notating when contact is made. 10) Show a very happy new man when in WAW prescence, specifically when picking-up 5D Sundays.
Desires - of course reconcile but need small steps first 1) I want to reestablish some meaningful communication with WAW. 2) Increase duration and frequency of meaningful communication with WAW. 3) Discover a mode and time for communication when darkness ends. 4) Avoid opportunities for WAW to bring up negative topics such as lawyer, done, no chance...blah blah 5) Rebuild our friendship - way to soon I guess. 6) Learn when to break "structured darkness".
Having said all of that, I'd like some feedback on if these goals are good, measuring of those goals, any additional goals, and how do these goals increase my number one desire of reestablishing meaningful communication with WAW. I guess I am stuggling with the idea of wanting more communication knowing I cannot/should not now and if these goals will provide an opportunity for it.
