Aud, thank you for visiting my thread, and I want you to know that reading your response to my response to what you said about 'equivalence of hurt' really made MY day! I had been doing some reading about EMA last evening and found myself right back in the Dark Ages, very low mood and being pessimistic about reconciliation -- this in contrast to my sunny, upbeat mood earlier in the day. I did wonder, at one point, if my mood had been influenced by my reading, and I did get a bit of a lift from re-reading my own DB thread and seeing how far we had come in reconciliation. But only 'a bit of a lift', not much, and this morning was very low energy and not looking forward to seeing H later today for our regular Wednesday date. Then I booted up the computer, a nice email from H there -- but also your comment on my thread, and that was what gave me some energy.
Originally Posted By: Aud31
I haven't seen the true remorse from him, maybe never will...
Aud, you might be interested to know that I have felt the exact same way as you on this, have done for many months. This is what leads me to think that there will be no full reconciliation with H and that the relationship we now enjoy will be it for us, that this is all we will be able to achieve and no more. AND YET, Aud (I hope you're still reading!) H has actually apologized to me on 3 occasions for the hurt he caused me. But I discounted those apologies. They didn't seem long enough or remorseful enough. I thought of them as 'perfunctory'. (I'm sure there is a lesson in this but I'm not sure what it is)
