Unrequited Love...

[JennyF]

First of all B...I love you ok?? I know that doesn't mean much...but it's something!

Second, try not to see this as the end, but just another bump in the road.

I think that she was feeling close to you again and because she is still confused, she now needs to back off to figure it out.
Like my H, she is saying it is over so she can truly feel free to make the choices she needs to.
I think they feel that they've been on the fence for so long that they have to make a decision so they can stop feeling confused. The decision that will stop YOU from spinning is to just say it's over.

And maybe it is for now. I try to think of it that my old M is over. If there is a chance for us we have to start fresh again anyway.

I think one thing is clear, you and your W are still friends. I can't really say the same. She changed in front of you? That's good! It shows a comfort level. You are still connected.
But I think you need to be careful because it sounds like she is going to do some cake eating. Still wanting to see you and hang out. Maybe you need go back to being dark.

Also, she may feel that she needs to tell you this so she can really explore her feelings about OM. She is being honest with you so that she can absolve herself of guilt if she pursues it.

Having said that, I think you have to decide if you're up for the wait. We're in a similar position (minus the 2 kids). My H says it's over and I'm not ready to throw in the towel yet.
BUT, I know that this is going to be a LONG process. I don't know how long I'm willing to wait, but I've still got fight left in me. I'm not giving up on him just yet.
So I'm still DB'ing my butt off, but the focus is on me and my life.

I'm really sorry that it didn't go the way you wanted it to. Don't give up yet...we're in this together!
J~