I have seen no changes, H is acting exactly the same as he was 2 years ago.
I accept that MLCers have a difficult time caring about anyone but themselves, but I do believe that they choose to be mean, that they choose the way they are going to communicate or not.
H has made it clear that he doesn't want to be in my life, he has made it clear that he doesn't want me to play any part in his. H has chosen to have a superficial, occasional relationship with our eldest S19 & a non existant relationship with S16.
H chooses to ignore me, H chooses to object to every proposal connected with the financial settlement. I would like to think it is because he is stalling, but I'm afraid to say it is because he is out to gain the maximum ammount of funds from our assets. H is heavily in debt and still spending by all accounts, he doesn't pay any maintainance towards the family home, sons or their full time education. His large professional income has just dissolved for the past 2 years with nothing to show for it. Despite all this H somehow feels I have had everything my own way.
We have a son with medical problems who has spent the last 2 years attending hospital frequently and receiving medication for crisis after crisis, yet each time I have informed H of such he chooses to ignore me, he just doesn't acknowledge anything.
All this is why I have to get off this rollercoaster, H has made choices, cruel choices, he has walked away leaving a mess behind him and as time passes I am becoming to realise that he wanted this, he is intelligent and makes professional descisions each day, he has studied the effects of divorce he is knowledgable. H filed, in jan 07, my unreasonable behaviour, the best he could come up with was I was jealous ( yep, I had the nerve to question a note informing me of his extra marital affairs ) The divorce goes to court in just a few weeks for the final hearing, that will be it I will no longer be married.
