My H stopped wearing his rings a year or two ago. MY sissters and friends were always telling me "you should make him wear his ring - I would never put up wwith that". But he would always say its just too tight. I believed him. LIttle did I know it was probably because he is in sales meets new people every day and wanted to see who he could meet. Then when the affair hit all the pieces fell together. I trusted unconditionally and would always tell my friends I dont care if he wears the ring - I trust him. The wife is always the last to know is so true. But today it does not really matter ring or not - people dont care if your married or not. The coworker he is involved with knew he was married and had a D. She did not care. So a ring does not mean much to other poeple - I guess as long as it means something to you. The moment I found out about the affair I took my ring off becuase he asked for a D right away and I felt like we were not committed anymore. I would love to get involved with somoene right now. It would be so easy to have someone boost my ego and flatter me and have "someone" but like someone said earlier I think to myself how can I drag someone else into this mess - emotionally I dont have anything to give to someone new. So if you still feel committed to your spouse wear the ring if it makes you feel better but I would not have an affair for revenge - thats just involving an inncocent person in all of our emotions and though it might make you feel good at the moment if you and your spouse do reconcile you might regret it because technically your still married and you might have to live with that all your life. Be careful and think it through.
