W not angry any more and wants to work on the M

[Lanzo]

Hello All

My name is Lanzo and I'm ready to piece my marriage back together.

I've been posting in the newcomers section for the last 6 months and I've ridden a tough rollercoster. I thought I would be in newcomers for a good while longer, but W seem to have had a sudden change where she wants to work on the M. Actually the change was coming but the last jump caught me a little bit on the hop.

Quick summary of our sitch:
Our M has always been up and down, no real mean fights just a lot of sulking, pouting and not talking on both sides. If we argue W shouts and withholds intimacy (which is limited anyway). I retreat into my shell, and sulk. No talking can last a long time.
2004 (Aug)W screams at me this M is over and we distance ourselves from each other for nearly a year.
2005 (Sept) discover brief PA,I made W ended it and we decide to work on the M.
2006 (April) discover evidence of long running EA with different OM (could go way back but for now I'll say 2003),
2006 Things were ok with us, W actually tried with M, so I let things go. (I didn't understand EA's then).
2007 (April) I get the proper ILYBNILWY speech, Shortly after I discover EA hotting up, so I bust it up.
2007 (June)Find out OM from PA, back as EA.
2007 (July)I go mad and move out. W gets mad at me and jumps into full blown PA again.
2007 (Aug) I discover DB site and get to work (wished I'd found it in 2005)
2007 (Oct)I move back home, W always mad at me.
2007(Dec)I DB, but get to point of giving up and suggest D talks. W says its ended with OM, and we should have talks in the new year.
2008 (Jan)Were in same house, same bed but W says she not attracted to me, doesn't want intimacy, felt like this for long time. She doesn't want D or to sell house anymore, but says we stuck together. No sign of commitment to me, but she committed to the house. We move forward slowly.
2008 (Feb)W wants to work on the M, be a family and do stuff together.

(Phew !!)

Links to previous threads
W always angry at me...
W still angry with me...
W less angry with me...

I've got loads of question as I've no idea where to start with piecing but I'll let you get aquainted with me and I'll pick up with stuff in my next post, and kinda detail our current situation a little bit more.

Thank you all and I look forward to corresponding with you