Confessions of a Supermom - JennyF's 4th thread

[JennyF]

Lizzy,
Thanks for catching up with me and for your thoughts.
1)
My D's b-day is on Thursday, I just had the party for her last weekend. We have been talking for weeks now about when she turns 3 "no more soo soos!" (soothers). She's been prettu gung ho about it, but now I think reality is starting to set it so we'll see how it goes. She only gets it at bedtime anyway. On Thursday night, she is going to bed with them. We've already discussed that the Soother Fairy is going to come and will take her Soo Soos and leave her a special present. I've got giant pink fur letters that spell her name and I'm going to put them in her room for when she wakes up! She'll love them.
THEN...and here is the great part...H has her for the weekend! No more soo soos and he's got her overnight for 2 nights. Hopefully it's not too hard on D...but at least H will have to step up.

2) I'm gearing up to tell H to forget about the house at all right now. I met with the bank and she said that while I could carry the house myself once I go back to work (meaning they would approve me), it's not a wise financial move on my part.
I'm going to speak to my lawyer about it tomorrow to make sure I've got all my ducks in a row... and then let H know by the end of the week. He's going to be pissed. I don't care.

3) MIL...yeah, the whole family has issues. In fact I believe that this is their crisis equally. It's all intertwined with his Dad and the whole sordid story. I think they have family things to work out...but with their tendency for avoidance it may take a while.

4) I agree with you about the signed papers! Each day brings new possibility. Best thing I can do is just sit back and let it unfold.

I remember hearing a quote in "The Secret" and I've felt it was relevent to our DB sitch's...it's not verbadum, but here it goes...

You can get from California to New York driving in the dark with just your headlights. You know where you're going, but you can only see 200 yards in front of you at a time.
Life has a tendency to unfold this way, if you just trust that the next 200 yards will unfold and the next 200 after that...you'll eventually get where you're going.

And then they quote Martin Luther King:
Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole stair case...just take the first step.

J~