Andabelle, have you tried posting in the (general)Newcomers forum? I posted for the first time today. Just like you I have had a rocky M - a few EA's, a separation. My husband is also a very unhappy person and blames all his unhappiness on me. I am certainly not one to offer advice as, in the last 2 months, I've done everything against DB and find myself once again going through a separation. Many people who have never been through something like this can never understand and will tell you to just move forward. You are the only one who can say for sure whether your M is worth saving. I sometimes wonder myself whether I should continue with this insanity but usually find myself wanting to keep trying. My H is a wonderful person but often very confused about what he wants. I'm going to try to hang in there until I feel I have nothing left to hold onto.


Me47
H46
S13
M16
Piecing since May/09

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