Just keep loving her and give her space. You have absolutely NOTHING to lose.
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
Just going to chime in with my 2 cents worth as someone who was where you were some months ago.
First do not fear separation , it may be exactly what you both need. If she wants to go then help her, any effort to hold her back will be counterproductive.
You will be thrown out of your comfort zone ( yes again ) , It will be emotional but you can use this emotional energy in a positive way and live. It is possible to be happy even when there is turmoil. There is nothing you can do directly to sway your W from her path so help her take it.
This will be difficult but it will show how much you care and it will be noticed believe me .
Thanks C_K. I do fear it for I know right where she will be. In OM arms. But I can be tough believe me. This whole process has made me stronger and a much better person. Thanks for your thoughts. Cheers.
I have a sick feeling today like something is not right. I read a passage in DR that said people just don't fall out of love and that love ebbs and flows. So I am hoping that her statement "My love for you has died" is just the fog speaking and the love will come back. I love her so much.
I just got a unsolicited huge hug and kiss as she left for the day. I will put that one in the bank for later. I am going to need it.
Went to the Psychiatrist today. It was great. Said to stop beating myself up and make a plan, set goal and stick to them. He said to promote myself to numero uno and do fun things. Don't let anyone abuse you. I feel so good. Stopped at my Mom's house for a quick dose of love. I have not felt this good since before bomb day. Thanks for your thoughts!
