Just thought I'd pop in on your thread. I don't have much time to review it, but my guess about your H is being such an a$$ because he's frustrated with his life and stupid mistakes he has made. I think he's probably in a selfish place and still has growing up to do. Unfortunately, it won't happen overnight.
Let it go. This immaturity is not worth your time.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
