Some of the things that concern me @ present: [list] [*]null 1 W's overall health - she is believed to have a chordoma (bone cancer @ brain stem) and she swims in a sea of stress constantly
2 Relative to #1, In breaking ties w/ me she informed me that she would no longer need the family health ins my empl provides
3 She is teetering on edge of losing the hard earned fairly lucrative state job she fought hard 2 get - and of course it's health benefits she just aparently enrolled in
4 Even with her job intact she is just barely (at times not)making ends meet financially-she has w/out notice helped herself and mentioned afterwards to an acct she promised to remove her name fm over a month ago
>>>>> On this matter, so as not to be taken advantage of by her broken promise any more, I opened up another acct today. This was partially inspired by a comment on here (Sandi's perhaps) that when dealing w/ MLC S ..do not aid there efforts financially.
5 Back in Dec (after latest H bomb) I promised against W's wishes (though it was token resistance) to pay her apt rent each month til lease end, "stating that it was my honor, privilege & vow to do this as her H. (probably hypocritical in light of above remark)
6 I am trying be as delicate as I can possibly be in handling all things that are a part of this ever growing and maddening sitch but in particular I want to be a Dad to this 14 yr old girl so badly. My vulnerabilities are dangling in the breeze once more waiting to be smashed like a pinata
As I was nearing the end of my concerns list, my W called & I answered to discover that she wishes to come to pick me up fm work tonight so that we can talk (nothing alluded to by her)
I answered in the affirmative and so an encounter of some sort is set to happen on my turf at the motel my Co puts me in every night.
Anyone with any suggestions, comments, prayers, break-a-leg wishes feel free to chime in. This could be anything from a - she is having second thoughts; to here are the papers, plz sign on the dotted line.
Just remember to think before you speak. If what you say will NOT benefit the situation, but could potentially aggrevate it, don't say it. Let it be. Just remain calm and pretend that you are just sitting around with a friend. That helps. Good luck. Good idea on the run, give yourself a headstart at a good mood. Keep us posted.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
I am very grateful for your guys/gals friendly lookout of my craziness. Thanks a million, I have added your input to my arsenal.
The run sure did hit the spot. I am in a good state. I will surely act as best I can as her very best friend. I plan on surprising her big time in nothing but good ways. Time to unveil a 180 or two and make her want me again, God willing of course.
Hopefully, she won't bail. But I will be ready for anything just like a Boy scout.
Do what is pleasing to the Lord & if your not sure then ask him.
