I also told him I will be with no man who I would have to talk into being with me. I don't need to do that.
Good for you.
"If I have to convince you to be married to me, F it we're done, there's the door."
Hope, you know what? Screw it. Good for you. Honestly in his words, "What can you do?" What more can you do Hope?
I mean if he is doing this because it is the 'right' thing in his head and not because it is the easier thing, if he isn't choosing this path because he is making assumptions about what you are capable of doing or not doing, and more importantly YOU are ok with this...that is it. You be ok with this. Don't regret any of your choices.
Sometimes they don't come back. Sometimes they are really stupid, prideful, egotistical, shameful, morally crippled sh it heads.
Some guy is going to thank your idiot husband for being a moron. Some guy is going to be thankful for you in his life. Remember the lessons learned here. AND give that guy the DBing book on your 3rd year anniversary, to help communicate with each other. : )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Your relationship with your H may or may not be over with.
Your journey of self has just begun.
You are realizing your worth.
It is huge.
You have to come to this point.
Just because he is saying it is over, it will never work out, blah, blah, blah, blah, does not mean anything. He changed his mind once, twice, three times, he can change it a fourth. Anyway, who cares, that is his problem, not yours. Let go
I think you are doing wonderful..
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Wow the last few days have been quite something it seems - not sure what, but something.
See how much more quickly you are able to heal now - listen to you, telling him that you don't need to convince him to be with you! Go, girl! I bet you never thought you would be saying that to him a year ago.
Sugar, you've watched him drive away so many times, so how about you don't this time? How about YOU drive away and leave HIM behind - literally and figuratively. Please don't let him stay overnight, and have somewhere to go when he leaves. Your life will go on - and get better and better.
Love, Nicola
Life isn't about finding yourself; it's about creating yourself My thread: Trusting God's Plan
Some guy is going to thank your idiot husband for being a moron. Some guy is going to be thankful for you in his life. Remember the lessons learned here. AND give that guy the DBing book on your 3rd year anniversary, to help communicate with each other. : )
Good advice, Jack. I will remember that, if I ever get lucky enough. Although I did tell H once that there were several men that were glad he left and wanted to buy him a drink. He said he would belly up to the bar. When I got legally separated I told him he had filet but he threw it out for ground beef, however, if that is what fed his appetite, bon appetite'. Then he called the ow dog food. Nice.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
I will try to arrange something like that. We are getting to the point where this is "it" and since we have no kids, we don't have to continue to make contact. I have a sad feeling it might be the last time I see puppy and H, and that is going to hurt a lot. Deep down I know there is nothing really left between us, but it is still very hard to make that final break, especially when you know it's really final. God help me.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
Niiiiiiiiiice. Geez, aren't you glad those psycho days are over?
Sweetie...sending you hugs and kisses. It is a very sad moment - you remember when I called you sobbing at 6am when I got served. Even though it made sense and at that point, it's what I wanted, as well.
The end still hurts. B/c, it's the end. But, the end provides for new beginnings.
