Counselor was so nice. Very easy to talk to (duh!). I went 1 hour and 15 minutes before she gently pushed me out the door. She made me promise to physically visit an attorney to find out my rights. She wants me to think hard if I want H to move out right now, and if I do, have an atty help me. We talked about a lot else too. I held it together until she asked me about the kids and what I thought a divorce would do to them. We have another appt next week.
H was a major A$$ when I got home. Barking and moaning about stupid stuff. It reminded me of this summer before I knew about the A. Horrible afternoon with him. I avoided him, ignored him, and tried to enjoy my time with D3 until I left for work. I know he is sick *boo hoo* but geesh.......
Both therapy and cranky H left me exhausted.
I have a 9am appt with a new atty. I canNOT afford that atty I spoke with on the phone months ago. If H was fighting custody or something awful, then I wouldn't hesitate. But other than me not wanting a divorce, I think mine will go smoothly.
The C commended me on handling myself during this time, staying above water (not missing work, enjoying the kids). She talked about how I learned to ride the storm out, while H seems to just be standing, sinking, drowning... SO true. He is a mess and is blaming everyone but himself.
2 things H changed this week: (he didn't announce these, I just noticed)
1. He grocery shopped today instead of tomorrow (his former date with OW every week).
2. He asked if he could do lunch with D6 tomorrow (this is a day that OW cannot go).