Second time she's said "no matter what happens" in the past few days. What's up with that? does it mean she's not sure what's going to "happen", not sure we're going to get a D?
Yes, that sounds like what it means! MLCers are often uncertain. They try to convince themselves and others they are certain, but the waivering is constant for some.
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As far as standing only until and if a D, that's where I am now. I feel it's going to be really ugly if we go through that as my idea of what's fair and her idea of what's fair are light years apart.
I also don't know if I could trust someone after a D.
Okay, it may get Ugly. But it sounds like it's not so much Ugly as you will Stand up for what you feel is right regarding you and the kids--do as you feel is best for them and fgight for that and that she may react with anger and spew.
Yeah, MLCers do that. Let her get Ugly. Is the point of no return then because you think she will hate you too much to rebuild or because she will become so much worse that you will not take her back?
You seem like a great guy, great husband, great Dad. Keep being that guy. That means you are firm--tough love, but decent and cordial even when she is spewing Ugly. Not a doormat,, but tough love.
As for not being able to TRust someone after a divorce... So with everything she has done up to this point, you can trust her, but a piece of paper will change that?
SOrry, I don't get it. I get it if you mean that Ugly actions that may result from the divorce create less trust. But less trust simply because of the paper...? So which is it?
