Status 2 - W friendlier but still very distant

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Lan, I just read thru' ALL of your previous thread. As I said in my previous post my call to W on the pretext of S7 last morning ended in a rant which seemed tied to the business of car insurance and house title. You also have a reference to taking W off your car policy by renewing with another company (see below). I happened to do precisely this (see great mind's thing alike ;-) and it caused my W's ranting. You also called W at work once a week to keep the comm. channels flowing. So I do see the parallism and I get your point.

... W checks with me to see the status of my policy, when I tell her I only just renewed with a different insurance company...

Being a die hard I called her back a couple hours later. Told her to take good rest, study when she felt better and not worry about the legal stuff - not the best DBing (sympathizing), but appears not to have caused damage and may keep her more positive. We then had a long friendly "chat" triggered by my describing S7's creativity and latest art work from picking stuff out of the recycling bin - she elaborated on how she too was that way growing up and I went "Wow!" and said he must take after her because I'm not the least bit artistic. She referred to a decoupage she'd given me when we got engaged and I said I still have it and still like it a lot. She referred to signing S7 up for art classes near where she lives maybe in the Summer - I said that was a great idea but "Summer" and "where she lives" did not sound promising to me. After ~15 minutes on this theme I ended it on a positive note saying I had to get back to work.

The positive are she seemed "trilled" by the genuine "words of appreciation/affirmation" and chatted unusually long - so this at least confirms my hunch on her LL. But she's still has not gotten off the D path! Also positive is that D11 told me W does not talk to OM anymore because he's "weird" and has "issues". Also S11 said W's big TV was $1300 which makes me mad cos she does not contribute to school fees, etc.

However "Pudsey" (she really supported you) makes a key point in your last thread:

Don't look at what she is NOT doing, as that will never make any common sense. Look at what she IS doing.