Geez. I don't know what to say, but I felt I needed to offer a word of encouragement if I can. I feel so sick at what addictions can do to people and I can't imagine what you're having to deal with right now.
You're doing the best you can with what you know and what you have. I pray that your wife eventually turns her life around.
Blessings,
ntl
Me: 30 H: 32 Dating 10/96 Married 8/01 H PA's: Summer 97, 12/06, 5/07-10/23/07 My Saga