I also told him I will be with no man who I would have to talk into being with me. I don't need to do that.
Good for you.
"If I have to convince you to be married to me, F it we're done, there's the door."
Hope, you know what? Screw it. Good for you. Honestly in his words, "What can you do?" What more can you do Hope?
I mean if he is doing this because it is the 'right' thing in his head and not because it is the easier thing, if he isn't choosing this path because he is making assumptions about what you are capable of doing or not doing, and more importantly YOU are ok with this...that is it. You be ok with this. Don't regret any of your choices.
Sometimes they don't come back. Sometimes they are really stupid, prideful, egotistical, shameful, morally crippled sh it heads.
Some guy is going to thank your idiot husband for being a moron. Some guy is going to be thankful for you in his life. Remember the lessons learned here. AND give that guy the DBing book on your 3rd year anniversary, to help communicate with each other. : )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK