Did you initiate meeting with her? If so - bad idea, in my opinion.
She's gonna do what she's gonna do and you will not talk her out of it, no matter how much sense it makes to you. If she does file, get a lawyer that understands that you don't want to be divorced and drag your feet. But let all that go through the lawyer. If the lawyer won't do that, get another one.
You can't change her mind. Only she can. Repeat, ad infinitum.
