If you don't have a clear cut plan and you are going into this meeting with her with a lot of emotion (which it sounds like you are even though you say it's business) I would cancel.
My H threatened D several times. We never once met about it and I sure as heck didn't intiate any meetings.
If you can't talk to her about it without feeling comfortable then don't. It won't get you anywhere good.
Just my .02.
BFM
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
