By "non-tabloid" I meant divorces between ordinary people such as those we work with, go to school with, etc., whose lives are not likely to be read about in the supermarket checkout line.
Hairdog, you seem to have a knack for picking mean, vindictive women. I can very much see your W acting this way, should she become an "ex." I can't even begin to understand how a parent can justify this to themselves, short of protecting children from an abusive parent.
Surely, this desire to hurt the other parent by hurting the children is not typical of divorce? I know it happens... but geez...
I was reading a book called "The Good Divorce", and got the impression that a pretty sizable minority of divorces (~30%?, I'll have to look that one up) end up being high conflict struggles. I think one of the partners develops such a deep feeling of betrayal that hurting the other partner as much as possible seems like the best way of dealing with their own feelings. I'm guessing that some people have cast the other person as being so evil that letting them have the children for any length of time would be a concession to evil.
And I don't think anything like that would happen between me and my wife. Although I could be wrong.
I'm tired of divorce talk. It's depressing and it fuels hopelessness.
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
