As for detaching, yesterday w called about some problem at work, as I posted above, when I got off the phone I was upset and then it just kinda hit me. How sad and lost she is. I realized after talking with her, she sounded like a lost little teenager, blaming her problems on everyone else, talking about how if the woman keeps it up she will have to do something, I should have asked her if she was going wait until recess and then pull her hair out by the teeter-totter..
Detaching became easier after that realization..
My friends are really good, mostly they just tell me that if I need anything they are there..
As for you my friend, I am truly sorry for your fears (similar to mine actually) but I think deep down you know, as do I, that if this whole thing goes south there will be other loves and a whole new life that we can choose to enjoy..
