I have not been given a deadline for the paperwork.
I left a note on the counter for H for when he came home from work:"I have never asked you to leave I do not want this seperation. I want my family.If this is what you want I will not stand in your way. We should talk"
Talked to H last night and he appologized for yesterday.
He said "I know you think I hate you but I don't,
I want you to stay in this house and nothing for you to change.
I know I will have to pay you and I know that you will get this house free and clear and that is what I want.
You will be so much better off with someone else that can make you happy."
I will give a brief summary of the conversation that came after this.....
I said that if he had questions please do not go behind my back...just ask me
I'm not the ugly nasty person that you think I am and you know that I have never been that way.
I told him that when I said he could trust me to tell the truth and to stand by him that it still holds through.
I will always stand for my family...today and forever....you need to know that H
I will not and have ever tried to get more than I have ever needed and I won't
He said he did not actuaaly fill out the expense report and that the lawyer asked for the paper work and filled it in.
I told him that I received his expense report almost 4 week ago and that I have not responded and when my lawyer called I asked her to wait.
I told him that I was not ready to make these decisions that will affect me for the rest of my life.
I aslo told him that he has control of his lawyer not her of him.
(He used to be so much more in control of things this is soooo unlike him. It's like we have reversed rolls)
He must have had some idea....anyway.....we both agreed that we would sit down and do it ourselves
If it got to bad that the lawyers would take care of it.
He is sooo angry and I told him to please not be so angry because it only hurts himself....he said yea
He said he wants to spend time by himself....I validated
validated....
validated.... throught the whole conversation.
I also said that I have learned so much throught his whole thing and that I really love the person that I have become...don't know if that was good or bad but I said it.
He also mentioned about rrsp's and this is the 3rd time he told me the same thing.
I told him I had already done it and he forgot that he had told me.
That's about it in a nutshell. Ohhh and I was teary eyed through some of this....not tooo bad though
Sorry about the length.
E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
