NikB #25

[NikB]

Michelle
Thanks!! Glad you had fun. And kudos again to OT for the strawberries idea.

Yep, I definitely like the mention of those "we" things.. never realized how much those meant until they were gone for a long time.

JAK
I know, crazy eh? I guess braces would've taken twice as long, according to my dentist.

Sorry you're still having a rough time in your sitch. I hope things calm down soon so you can do more "evaluating" with less chaos going on.
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Not much new here... it's finally sunny and I am SOOO glad. It was cold, rainy, and cloudy for so many days in a row. Last weekend I seriously considered getting in the car and just driving until I got somewhere warm and sunny! (then realized how FAR that would be ).

This weekend we have a race in Sonoma. H has been getting ready all weekend/week so that's been fun. It's going to be weird to be so close to the downtown/plaza area and not go visit!

Hopefully have bellydance class tonight. Two weeks ago I got there and the clubhouse had apparently been rented out for something else. THAT was embarassing - I walk up in my workout clothes and with my hip scarf jingling away - get to the door and realize the place is PACKED with people (who all look towards the door, of course) . She must have sent out a cancellation because I was the only one who showed up, but I didn't get it for some reason. Last week traffic was so bad I couldn't get to class - frustrating! So keeping my fingers crossed for tonight. I miss it.

We have some friends coming over for dinner later this week, which I'm excited about. We get to meet their new baby, and I like this couple a lot as well. It's also a REALLY good thing M wise. In the past H always liked having people just "drop by" but it drove me insane never knowing if I was cooking dinner for 2 people or 10. We never handled it very well - had we talked it out I'm sure we could have come to a compromise but instead I flipped out, he quit inviting people over, and resented me for it. (I obliviously thought "Hey great, he quit surprising me with dinner guests!"). It came up in one of our few MC sessions. We agreed a better approach would have been for me to explain why it frustrated me and ask for a compromise where we still have people over but plan it a little more in advance; MC asked H if he felt that was reasonable and he said yes. Of course at that time it was in the context of "What should have happened but now it's too little, too late."

So, it's a pretty big deal to me that he feels comfortable having people over (especially since he avoids all his "older" friends/family when he's in his more down phases). And even better that he handled it the way we talked about in our MC session.

Off to vote and enjoy a little sun before work!