Ask him whether he thinks that he "needs" for you to be sexually turned on, and in it for yourself every time... or whether he most needs you to show him that you care about him.
If so, then maybe you can show him that you "care about him", even if you are not sexually turned on all the time.
how would that sound to you, if he agrees to it?
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
