Thanks, Lwb,

Yes, you see it correctly.

This action will likely be very damaging to my hopes of saving my M, maybe even putting the final nail in its coffin, I realize that.

But weighed against the interests of my S's, I have to come down on the side of my S's before that of my M. The sad truth is that my S's are facing the loss of their family; that's bad enough -- they don't need to also suffer the loss of their father too.

And, yes, Nik, I can see that I am obsessing.


Me: 49
WAW: 47
S11, S7
Years Married/Together: 17/18
Bomb: 6/15/07
Separation: 7/6/07
D: 4/3/09

Real love is a decision.
Marriage is a commitment.