Along the lines of forcing the OW on the girls, you see the successful part now. Wait until OW fails with your girls, and stbx. It will happen. Trust me.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Shades - my h too - they are older, but it is still damaging to adolescents and young adult. He could hardly have been more alienating if he had tried. And yet, he didn't intend to alienate them.
It really is. I honestly don't think my H has intended to alienate the kids either.
But if the kids don't go right along with whatever the MLCer wants that's when the problems arise. Well, that and the fact that he has not kept in any kind of regular contact with them.
I feel for your sons too. They are old enough to understand what your H is doing and to know that it is wrong and make their own decisions wether to see/speak with him or not. That is hard on them. To be so disappointed in a parent at any age is sad.
I stayed well away from the mayhem here. The stadium is only about 9 miles from my house. I just didn't go anywhere near it. Too many looney tunes out this weekend.
We stayed home today, except for church and stopping by a friend's house for a little while before the Super Bowl. My sis, BIL and folks came over. We ate all the obligatory junk food and watched the game. The kids are so excited the Giants won. They love them b/c those are the games we used to go to in Jersey.
I hate the shoving down the throats of the ow. D9 refused to talk to her dad last night and had D5 say she was busy or something. I was out to dinner so I don't know exactly how it went down. Tonight she talked to him for a minute about the Super Bowl.
Oh well...
Tomorrow I start my new job. Even though it's not what I really want I am kinda excited, kinda not. I hope it goes well. So I won't be able to check in until tomorrow night.
Hope everyone had a great day and enjoyed the game!!
You have smartie-pants for little girls! They take after their mom.
And, I cannot even comment on your STBX and Whore. Again...you have got to be kidding me. What, is she on the campaign trail, too? Carmen for Step-B^tch 2008? She should understand that naturally, it will take your kids longer, since they are not used to being exposed to sordid behavior, like allowing a man to share your home and bed while he is still married, in front of your kids. This is normal for her, so she assumes it is normal for you and your children.
Hang in there. I know the job will help tons! Another step to your new and independent life!
First day wasn't bad. Didn't really do too much yet. Filled out some forms, fingerprinted, security badge etc. Tomorrow starts the actual training. Tons of stuff to learn. Hope there is still room in my brain to remember it all!! LOL!!!
No word from STBX about a job for him. Although I haven't talked to him in a week. He said he would call when he got something.
I did get an email from him with the flight info for the kids and bil for next Friday. He scheduled a flight at 8:00 in the morning. That means they have to be at the airport no later than 6:30-7:00. I guess he thinks I am taking them. He doesn't know that I have a job yet. I didn't tell him, I just sent him an email saying thanks, and let me know what time bil will be picking the kids up Friday morning and I will have them ready.
I wouldn't mind taking them to the airport but bil is not the most timely person I know and I have to be at the office no later than 8:00. I will take them if he balks at it, but he will have to meet me on time or I will be late. The 6:30 would give me more than enough time to get there but the 7:00, if he is late wouldn't. It is REALLY out of the way for bil to come to the house to pick them up but I didn't plan the trip, wasn't even asked about times.
Hope you all are doing well. I will check back in a little while.
