Having been the WAW of someone on this site, I would suggest you move on. Tell them to make their decision, look for somewhere to live, start the D process. Then pull away. Being their live in friend and acting "normal" but without the physical stuff just makes them hold on. They have the best of both worlds. Unfortunately tough love is what needs to happen.
When my husband did this, it was like a slap in the face. It also helped that OG's W started her nastiness again and I was faced with taking down the christmas tree and separating the family ornaments, etc. It was just a huge wake up call for me.
What do you possibly have to lose? If nothing else has worked yet, tough love tends to do the trick.
Once you've done all of this, then suggest retrovaille as a way to improve communication after the D "for the kids sake". That weekend will help tremendously no matter what ends up happening. Either it will reignite something or it will truly help each of you in your next relationships.
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,rather by the moments that take our breath away. M38,H40 M14 K D11 S8 D - June 09
