I think I have the textbook definition of a WAS. He just doesn't look back. He just doesn't care.
This could be true or not...but if you think about it, you are not the textbook definition of an LBS (I think you have shown amazing strength)...most of at some point do all of the wrong things...cry, plead, beg, push, have R talk...I know I have suggested this to you before but do you think it would hurt to have a little talk with your H? It has been such a long time...maybe it could shine a little light on what he is thinking or feeling. Could you use your D's as a way to start a conversation with him? Not knowing anything, seems to really be weighing on you.
I hope today is a better day for you...try to avoid those potholes if you can!