Getting stronger everyday!

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Thanks Lin....busy, yes. I own a florist, so I am very busy the first part of this month! Valentines is a big busy day for me!

I have come here with a ? today....my H talked to me last night at TKD....He told me that the OW had asked him to move in with her. I just looked at him kinda dumb really...Then he told me that he decided that it was way too soon and there were too many "what ifs". I told him that I thought it would be crazy for him to do it with the what ifs because if it didnt work out with them, then he would be left with no home...he agreed, said that was his thinking also. I asked him what she said when he told her....then he said he hadnt told her yet. He had just told her that he would have to think about it. ??? that is my question, why did he feel the need to tell me if he was going to tell her no? Why discuss this with me?? Then he precede to tell me or say that he guesses I know that him and the kids stayed at the OW's house last night....I was really not ready to hear that. He said he figured that the kids had told me...I said they didnt, they were probably afraid to tell me. Anyway, he said he had asked the kids several times if they wanted to stay and they said yes. He said the OW had wanted them to stay, that they seemed comfortable around her. Actually, my kids would stay with a stranger if they had a playstation and a 4 wheeler, it isnt about the person....anyway, my H said he felt bad for doing it and that it wouldnt happen again. (he said that, not me) He asked was I mad at him and I said NO, just disappointed in him and pissed at her for even suggesting it. I said that was the one thing we were going to discuss before it happened. Anyway, I handled it well, better than he thought I would. I did speak to my d and told her I knew about them staying at the OW's, I asked her why didnt she tell me, said she didnt know, I asked did she want to stay there, she said, Not really. I told her that she needed to be honest with me and her dad, and not be afraid of hurting our feelings. She said OK...anyway, I told her dad what she said. I didnt fuss, just told him what she said.

We were actually having a good discussion about it. He then asked how come we seem to get along and be able to talk better when we arent "together". All I could say was that there were no expectations or pressures to work on anything....He said he had been thinking about that lately.

Anyway, I just dont get why he told me about OW asking him to move in, and for him to tell me that he was going to tell her no....but told me first. Was he looking for approval? Just struck me as odd...kinda like the last time he told me that he was quitting EMS, but hadnt told her yet, told me first....