She asked me why I want to keep the kids in their present school district. I told her that I thought it would be better for them not to have that change right now, but that I wasn't ruling out moving them later. I said that I think it would be better for them not to have that change too. She said S4 is already in day-care in town. I agreed, and said with the size of the school district there, there is no guarantee that he will be in K with any of the same kids, and I think it's a lot more important that he go to the same school as his brother. (I didn't even mention the logistics of this.) I said this is going to hit them very hard, and I don't want them to have that change too.
She said can't you see that it would be better for them not to have that commute? Can't you see that they would spend all that time in the car, and that I wouldn't get them home until 7:30. don't you think it would be better for them to move to a school in town closer to our jobs?
I find it interesting here that she didn't appear to think about their schedule on the weeks I have them. Her intent to move into town will only affect their commute on the weeks that she has custody, and their schedule will stay the same on the weeks I have them. The Fog, I guess.
This wasn't the best thing to say, but I said, that's your choice, that isn't my choice.
Naturally this sent things straight downhill.
Later, she said I would have liked to have come to an agreement over this. I said I would have to.
She said we're not going to agree about these things at the conference, I said, probably not.
She said we will have to go to trial, I guess this is where things get ugly, where we have to drag our affairs out into court. I said I guess it is.
She said some f-ing judge is going to decide how our lives will be. I agreed and said, That's how these things go.
After a few more minutes, I said that I thought we should let the attorneys handle these aspects of the D because it always leaves her upset.
That was about it, but there has been a lot of anger from her the rest of the night and this morning. Almost all of my replies have been, I'm sorry you feel that way, & I'm not fighting with you.
So, here's the good news. No expectations, no massive drop in the rollercaster. Just a little dissapointment.
These are my friends now!
But someday baby... You ain't worry my life anymore
Take away, take away what I don't need, save the good part please. Fade away, fade away.
