Need Advice!

[elocin777]

Hi-sorry it is going to be a busy week(moving, school, & work)so please don't think I am not responding. What you said Sandi did hit me hard but like I said I guess I needed to hear it. It has been very hard for me to detach(emotionally and physically). I thought emotional I made progress but I guess I was trying to fool myself. I love him with my heart & soul and want my marriage to work so badly that you do desperate things. It is also hard to detach when I see him every day. He is helping me move this week-but he also comes over during the week to stay with boys after work(to give them dinner etc..) and when I leave for clinical(school) at 5:30 in morning to get them off to school. But I am going to make the effort. H even said to me before he left that our relationship was not challenging anymore-there was no more chase(as he put it). The past couple of weeks I have been spending a lot of time with H and he is even going to my nieces(our godchild) birthday party(very big deal since he has not wanted to be near my family since this has all happened). H had totally detach himself from anyone in my family and he always loved and fussed over our nieces and nephews(the babies), that was one of the hardest things to understand because he acted like they did not exist. Recently he has asked to talk to them and seems to want to know what is going on with them. I don't want to blow this since he is starting to come around more. I will try it in babysteps-because I know if I do it all at once it will not work. So I will try to emotionally detach myself since that seems to be the hardest. I will try and keep you posted but like I said it is going to be a busy week. Please keep the advice coming because I am definitely going to need it!
Nicole