Fran,

I agree with CE that if you feel like telling your H that you love him, tell him. If you don't feel like it, then don't. As hard as it is to do, you have to let the chips fall where they may and let him be who he is going to be. I do understand your fear. IMO the best thing you can do is to be honest with your feelings. You can't control the outcome by withholding them.