If I look at it closely I think the real reason I won't say it now is that I feel like it would be letting him off the hook. That's not a nice thing to realise about my behaviour. It's fear really, fear of him back-sliding if he gets too comfortable.
That's another attempt at controlling him there. Also, I don't think he was ever "comfortable"... if he was, he wouldn't be looking for ways to escape or hide (including, but not limited to, alcohol). Give him what you can, especially as he's doing well now, and be straight with him... if you feel love for him, don't hide it because you think you have to keep putting the screws to him.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
