Tied to the Whipping Post

[Punktmann]

I'm back guys, I'm better, the sitch is worse. Or the same. Or whatever.

Imageer,

Having an R talk is like getting an electric shock, you quickly realise that it was a bad idea and don't want to do it again.

I know it is a blow to your ego when she is disrespectful but why bother "Addressing" it? She is not going to listen and you'll just end up arguing with her. Just say "I'm sorry you feel that way" and walk away. Not only will she not expect this, it will be a 180 and also piss her off because she is not getting a rise out of you, which is what she wanted by being disrespectful in the firt place.

Shock is right. Like that time the free end of the ground cable I was installing in a sub-panel hit the bus bar in the main box. I really find myself wanting to avoid it now. There's not a darn thing I can say that will move her further along, only a couple of things I can say that will be neutral, and there's a million things I can say that will push her back in.

I spent some serious time thinking about what you wrote about the disrespect bit. I think that you are right about this. What does it matter? Addressing it can only push her away, (even if she sees it, it's guilt,) and why am I trying to "control" it anyway?

Gman

Where ya been bro? I hope things are ok as they can be.

Doing good man, just needed break from constantly thinking about all this. I did anyway, but not as much. Sorry to read about your dog, that sucks. Hows other things with you?


Boards can be overwhelming.
I think it is a good sign for Punk that he isn't here, he isn't overanalyzing everything.

Hey Jack, you're right about overwhelming, it got to where I was spending too much time worrying this like a bone. Or overanalyzing. I think that's where we are when we begin, I was growing out of it, and started to slip back into it. (Insert Homer Simpson voice,) Stupid Expectations!


Thanks everyone for checking in on me.