Thanks for the post! I have never been chroniclized before!!! It made me laugh! Retrouvaille has truly been a god send for me, for us...if you work at it and do what you are supposed to then it will help. For us it has given us the key on how to communicate, really communicate. We no longer take offense with what each other is saying, we listen and understand, and if we do disagree we talk about it now, again all the self defense has been taken out of it! Last night if I am honest I came very close just to saying I was done with the marriage, everything...its nothing my H has done, but its me feeling totally overwhelmed by life at the moment. My Mum has been ill, issue's with the kids, h Dad was ill last week, and just tending to our marriage,finances. I told H I feel like I am running to each thing in this constant motion, to make sure all is ok, I feel like there is no part in my life that is settled, calm, that I don't have any part with no worry attached... I told him I just feel like running, leaving it all behind...he never flinched, he talked to me calmly, trying to help. He also admitted that he know he has been a "leech" to me over the past year, and that is no more. He is very happy, very happy with us...he really tried to tell me this, because he wanted me not to have to worry about us. Before retrouvaille we would never have been able to get through something like that! It would have turned into the blame game! We each would have gotten pissed off, and nothing would have been solved. He also told me he doesn't want me to let things get to this point again, and he wants me to tell him when I feel like this. Again this was a wow! because before he would have just buried his head and ignored everything! So I believe if you truly embrace the retrouvaille, and work, and do what you need to with it, it can only help!
SOrry for the long winded post!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!
