I am so impressed by you. You are very introspective in a short period of time. No pun intended.
You are truly DBing and working on "you" issues.
No contact has also done wonders for me in this journey. It helped me get a perspective on reality, something I had not had in a long time due to living with a MLC'er for a while.
I have a feeling your growth will be hugh.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11