I think PH has the right idea. Don't ever worry about what your W or the OP is thinking about you. It doesn't matter. You are a great person, I think she knows it, it drives her nuts but it is probably what will draw her back to you. The insanity will probably become too much and she will want the good life again.
And I think Law is spot on. She may be feeling strongly about you post-niceties so she gets upset and you get unloaded on. I would stay positive that you are probably on her mind.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God