Short1, You sound like you are doing well and are at peace with yourself. I am weirdly enough starting to feel that same way in some sense. It is very depressing going through these situations we are all faced with here. But to me, it is truely a miracle to feel like I can be myself again, and not some one who is constantly walking on egg shells around my H. I also felt like I have always done every thing to please my H and he was always so controlling, and had a terrible temper when things didn't go his way. Now I am just feeling sorry for him more and more. But I am happy to be relearning my true self. When my H left me the second time around - the first thing I started to say to people was that it somehow had felt like a bit of a relief (as cruel as that sounds), I feel like when I look back on things he was just so mean to me and uncaring in so many ways it actually is embarrasing to me that I just kept putting up with it. I am learning to respect myself again and stand up for myself with out worriing about what others will think and feel. Thanks for listening, TIPPER
